tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5168184912090085196.post4070127701326498310..comments2021-10-15T05:57:01.005-04:00Comments on Missing Bobby: A Widow's Journey: Looks Can Be DeceivingUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5168184912090085196.post-85996146325264933972010-10-22T14:19:30.975-04:002010-10-22T14:19:30.975-04:00Amen to both of you. It has been over 2 years for ...Amen to both of you. It has been over 2 years for me, and I got SO tired about how strong I was, etcetera, etcetera, when I did NOT feel strong and was ready to cave in. Tired of the loneliness, of the nights of NO ONE to talk with, to eat with, to talk on the phone with. Now, of course, I have moved forward (what other choice is there?) and no one says that anymore. Looking back, I think people wanted to say something supportive and they thought that WAS the thing to say. If only they knew how it sounds to a grieving, lonely widow (or widower). Another hated phrase: he's in a much better place. Was being with ME such a bad place to be???....jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02598544917785126150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5168184912090085196.post-75597538098981739002010-08-31T02:44:55.295-04:002010-08-31T02:44:55.295-04:00I don't know whether to laugh or cry ... but I...I don't know whether to laugh or cry ... but I'm nodding right along with you.<br />I tend to give the standard "I'm fine" response to most people. They don't want to hear that my life is so crap that I struggle not to cry all the time and sometimes its really hard to breathe. They don't want to hear about me holding a sobbing child while they fall asleep, missing their Daddy.<br />Everyone wants me to be "over it" it seems ... except for the inner circle who know that I'll never be "over it".<br /><br />HugsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com